How do I gain momentum?

Thanks for the A2A.

If I understand your question correctly, you’re asking how to stay motivated.

You cannot segregate motivation because you cannot be motivated at home and then not motivated at work. If you are, that means something is missing in your life. Because you have to live your life passionately and aggressively in everything you do.

To complete this, you will need to follow the daily practice from James Altucher.

Continue reading “How do I gain momentum?”

7 things i learned from brazilian jiujitsu

Brazilian Jiu Jitsu

I’ve recently started BJJ. For those who don’t know BJJ is short for Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. A combat sport focused on grappling and ground fighting. So far here are seven things I learned.

Helio Gracie, the founder of Gracie jiu-jitsu
Helio Gracie, the founder of Gracie jiu-jitsu and later, Brazilian Jiu Jitsu

I am weak as f%$#@

While rolling, I was easily manhandled by my sparring partners. They toss me, pull me, push me and turn me in every direction and they made it look easy.

Solution

I have to get stronger! I need to work on strength exercises by incorporating barbells, dumbbells and kettlebells into my training. I’m thinking of adding 3 day week training program like StrongLiftsThe Big 3 Routine, and/or Simple & Sinister from Pavel Tsatsouline every day.

My cardio is horrendous

The cardio in Bjj is not the same as other cardio. It’s more anaerobic than aerobic. I’ve ridden a bike, row, CrossFit, played hockey, downhill ski, run around bases and practice Muay Thai. All fun activities but not the same as Bjj cardio.

Solution

Do Bjj 2–4 times a week.

A great gym makes a huge difference

I train at BTT Canada in Montreal. The gym is owned and operated my Fabio Holanda. I never met so many people with black, brown, blue purple and even white belts with a heart of a teacher. Not only do they love BJJ they actually live the BJJ philosophy. Right now, I’m still in the learning stages of BJJ. Therefore I need to focus on my skills and techniques before I can teach anyone else’s.

Grip strength is important in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu

Grabbing, pushing, pulling are core movements of Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. If you can grab, you can’t defend.

Solution

Focus on these 7 exercises to work on my grip strength. And I’m keeping my hair and nails short. It’s very difficult to grab an opponent’s GI with long nails.

Brazilian Jiu Jitsu is a lot of fun

Meeting new people. Learning new skills, laughing when you’re getting my ass kicked. I have to admit. It’s a lot of fun.

Brazilian Jiu Jitsu is a philosophy and a way of life.

Some important things to be no longer as important. Reminds me of a quote in the novel Fight Club.

“After a night in fight club, everything in the real world gets the volume turned down. Nothing can piss you off. Your word is law, and if other people break that law or question you, even that doesn’t piss you off. “ — Chuck Palahniuk, Fight Club, Chapter 6

Edward Norton and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu
Edward Norton and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu

Shower and wash thoroughly after training

I can’t believe some people leave the gym without showering. We spent the last 1.5 hours rolling with each other’s sweat and the risk of staph infection is higher in a BJJ gym, hygiene is of the utmost importance. Shower with an anti-Bacterial, anti-fungal soap.

Solution

Get some Defence Soap or African Nubian Soap and wash thoroughly after every training session.

That’s it for now. I’ll post another update on my BJJ experience in another 3–6 months or so.

Me with my rashguard and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu Face.
Me with my rashguard and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu Face.

What has been your experience with Brazilian Jiu Jitsu?

In health,

Joe

how to get out of debt hell?

When you’re in debt, you feel like your in hell. In debt-hell.

And there is only one way of getting out of debt-hell. And that is with great intensity and focus. And by that I mean, you have to be willing to live like no one else so you later, you can live like no one else.

Living Debt-Free is a lot easier than you think.

If You’re Going Through Hell, Keep Going

“If You’re Going Through Debt-Hell, Keep Going — Winston Churchill” – Joe Di Lillo

How To Get Out Of Debt-Hell

The first step is to stop incurring more debt. Quit borrowing money. Cut your credit card (s). Cancel your line of credit, sell your house if you have too! Take an oath and quit borrowing money. There’s no such thing as good debt! As of right now, quit borrowing money. Forever! I’m not a very religious man but I love reading Proverbs 22:7

“The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is slave to the lender.”

No such thing as good debt.

The second step is to live on a tight financial budget. You can use a spreadsheet program like Excel or use a piece of paper and a pen. It doesn’t matter. A budget is simply you telling your money where to go instead of asking where it went at the end of each and every month. Reduce your monthly expenses to the bare minimum. Your main expenses are food, shelter, utilities and transportation. Everything else should be cut. And that includes eating at expensive restaurants, cutting your entertainment packages (Internet, Cable Television, Satellite TV, Netflix etc.) Cell phone plan, gym memberships etc. Every dollar saved is a dollar towards paying off your debts. In this step, organize your debts by lowest amount to highest and attack the first debt voraciously. This is known as the Debt Snowball Method.

The third step is to raise your income. If it possible for you to work overtime at your current job then do it. You can also find a higher/better paying job or find a 2nd or 3rd part-time job. For example, you can deliver pizzas or working in a call centre during nights and weekends (after your main job) The best would be to combine all of these options to you can generate a lot of income and attack your debt. You can also start an online business but it might take a few months or years to actually see a profit.

And the fourth and final step, getting your mindset right. If you don’t believe that debt is dumb, that you need super intensity to get out of your situation then you’ll be in debt forever. In fact, this step should be number one. However, if I wrote it first then people would have skipped my answer because people love to read about action-steps without actually doing anything about it. You need to put all of you attention and focus on getting out of debt. That means, temporary eliminating all other goals that you may have. (In essence, multitasking can be negative but that’s another subject for another day.) There’s a great article by James Clear explaining this on his website called Warren Buffett’s “2 List” Strategy: How to Maximize Your Focus and Master Your Priorities

warren-buffett
Has Warren ever been in Debt-Hell?

To summarize, to clear off your debts. Have the correct mindset (intensity), have a plan (budget) and violently execute it. (work like a madman)

George S Patton
“A good plan violently executed now is better than a perfect plan executed next week.” — George S. Patton

I’m sure George S Patton violently exited his debt-hell.

I hope this helps!

In Health,

Joe

how do introverts enjoy life?

Originally posted on Quora, answering the question: Interpersonal Interaction: What is the quickest way to get people to trust you. Follow me on Quora.

Like many others, I am an introvert. I discovered this when I was younger when all my friends wanted to party in clubs and I just wanted to go the theaters and watch the latest Hollywood blockbuster.

Sir Isaac Newton, perhaps the most famous introverts of all-time.

The main difference between me and extroverts is that alone time energizes me and allows me to feel rejuvenated. This is why I like reading so much.

Here are some activities that I enjoy to do every day.

1. Reading.

Visit Ben’s blog for great book recommendations.

2. Writing.

My blog

3. Going for a walk

4. Lifting heavy weights at the gym

5. Listening to music, especially deep house.

6. Hiking

7. Going for coffee alone

8. Cooking

9. Watching an old black and white movie

Sunset Boulevard, my favourite movie of all-time.

10. Browsing questions and answers on Quora.

Quora

Bonus 11. Look at beautiful art.

Caspar David FriedrichWanderer above the Sea of Fog, 1818

Probably my favorite painting.

I hope this helps!

In health,

Joe

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what am i doing now?

  • Living in Montreal, Canada. This might change soon, I’m exploring different opportunities in various cities. Stay tuned.
  • Enjoying an espresso and exploring various cafes in Montreal. Follow me on Instagram to see more.
  • Attending weekly Toastmasters meetings to improve my communication and public speaking skills.
  • I am completing my Professional Diploma in UX Design from the UX Design Institute. And following the “Become a User Experience Designer” learning path from Linkedin Learning. (Formally www.lynda.com)
  • Learning Web Development and Ruby on Rails from Code Academy.
  • Exploring Le Wagon Montreal curriculum and reading their reviews
  • Reading Confessions of an Advertising Man by David Ogilvy.
  • 30 mins of Vipassana Meditation every morning.
  • Daily walking (30–60 mins), followed by physiotherapy for my left shoulder. (Aggravated an old hockey injury playing hockey) Once, my therapy is complete, I will resume training at Crossfit Griffintown However, I might show up for the open class. Focusing on squats, rowing and assault bike. Anything that doesn’t involve my any shoulder movements.

Now post inspired by Derek Sivers.

Last Updated: January 31st, 2019